NaivenessPosted: June 3, 2014
<noun> the quality or state of being simple and sincere; having or showing unaffected simplicity of nature or absence of artificiality; unsophisticated; ingenuous.
Couple days ago I had a fun (at the same time scary) discussion with a good friend. We talked about how wild the world is: corruption, affair, betrayal, bribes, and everything that we know happened in our circle. We know our friend out there has this pressure to sleep with her supervisor, or else she couldn’t get the promotion. Or in another case, one company has a night-club kind of culture, which every senior manager candidates have to be able to blend in. These just made us, scare. We learned everything in ideal condition in our school, university, and of course family,.. and then we had these friends, office colleagues, and other circles that made us see that the world is not that ideal. It’s totally different. Full of bitterness.
We both realized that we are wayyyyy too naive to live in this wildness. We trusted people we love. We did rely to our partner in the office. We told secrets to our best friends. We obeyed our supervisors’ words and believed that they help us developed better, when in the end,.. turned out everything were not all end as we expected: our beloved betrayed us. Office partners stabbed us from behind. Friends spread bad rumors. Or the fact that our bosses were just using us for the sake of their needs. Again. Full of bitterness.
And then we thought that probably we can’t be too naive. Probably we won’t survive to beat all these bitterness if we think simply, that all people are good and trustworthy. My friend added “Bahkan judul album kedua Band Naif aja, ‘Jangan Terlalu Naif‘, Ka!“.
And the discussion ended, brought me into a long thinking, Is it really wrong being a naive person? Is it wrong if I see all mankind are good and trustworthy? Is it wrong if I put my best effort in every situation as if they want it really bad, and expect they will do the same for me?
Expectation. That word, huh?
Well, some might say high expectation is the answer why we feel disappointed. It might be. It might be not.
I was thinking for days, until I saw friend’s post in Facebook about Teresa’s Poem below.
Mother Teresa’s Anyway Poem
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
Bitterness is always there. But it shouldn’t stop us from doing good deeds. So I decided to just stay naive. Stay honest. Stay believe in good things in people. If He gave me another bitterness, let it be anyway. That bitterness will make me stronger, wiser,.. and might be closer to Him.